I got teary-eyed twice yesterday.
The first time was from sadness. It breaks my heart to see
North Carolina, a state I called home for years, the state where my wife and I were married
in our church ten years ago, and a place which was on my short list
of places to retire to, enshrined discrimination against me into the state
constitution.
The second time was from joy. Joy at finally seeing the
President of the United States say he supports my right to be married. To say
that he believes I should be treated equally, be able to visit my wife in the
hospital, make medical decisions for her should she not be able, claim her body
should she die before me so I can bury her as she wanted, or leave our house
and my pension and social security to her should I die before her. Joy at seeing him say, without equivocation, “I think same-sex couples should be able to get married.”
We still disagree on one point. He
still thinks this is an issue for the states, and I do not. The states no
longer get to decide whether or not to recognize interracial marriages. The Supreme Court
in Loving v Virginia ruled that marriage is a civil right that cannot be denied
just because some people find it is distasteful. Because if you don’t believe
in interracial marriage, don’t marry someone of another race. And if you don’t
believe in gay marriage, don’t marry someone of the same sex. (and don’t hand me
that line about churches being forced to marry gay people because it isn’t true…I
witnessed my own church refuse to marry a straight couple because that couple
did not want to meet the church’s requirement of pre-marital counseling. And while I know it is a religious issue for some, it is for me as well. My church recognizes my marriage.)
What I find really stunning, and
telling, is that the arguments used against gay marriage (or as I like to call
it, marriage) are the same arguments used against interracial marriage, the
first of which is that Americans “aren’t ready.” And yet, when Loving v
Virginia declared laws against interracial marriage unconstitutional, more than
70% of the population opposed interracial marriage (in fact, when I voted in
the late 80s to remove this unconstitutional provision from the SC
constitution, nearly 30% were still opposed to it…we did what was right anyway).
The latest polls show that 52% of Americans support the right of gays and
lesbians to marry. So it is time to do what is right.
Let’s play a little game. I am
going see if you can guess whether the argument was used against interracial
marriage or same-sex marriage. I will
put the answers below…no cheating!
1. These marriages run counter to God’s plan.
2. These marriages are “unnatural.”
3. The people entering into these
marriages are from “the dregs of society.”
4. Allowing these marriages will
open the door to incestuous marriages or polygamy.
5. These people already have a
right to marry.
6. These marriages would be disastrous
for society.
7. These marriages cannot produce
children.
8. These marriages would degrade
traditional marriage.
9. These marriages would cause a
higher incidence of disease.
10. These marriages would harm the
children.
So what do you think? Can you tell
which arguments were used against same-sex marriage and which were used against
interracial marriage? I’ll put the answers in the comments. Don’t cheat!
4 comments:
So the answers are:
1. Used against interracial marriage
2. Used against interracial marriage
3. Used against interracial marriage
4. Used against interracial marriage
5. Used against interracial marriage
6. Used against interracial marriage
7. Used against interracial marriage
8. Used against interracial marriage
9. Used against interracial marriage
10. Used against interracial marriage
That's right...ALL of them were used in court cases between 1948 and 1967 to argue against interracial marriage.
Appreciated, and shared!
Digger,
I just wanted to drop you a quick line. I have been following your blog quietly for the past few months. I am a fellow North Carolinian (as well as UNC grad)and an FSO hopeful. I am saddened to see our beautiful state enshrine hatred into their constitution. Love is love and I am happy that you have found it!
-Lauren
It's appalling to me that people put so much effort into closing their minds and closing their hearts... to purposely taking actions to deny others basic human rights. I have hope though... our children are learning and our culture is evolving.
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